Monday, 13 February 2012

Too mushy to love

For the people of our generation,V day seems to be one of the most important occasions! I,for one,have never been a huge fan of it.I'm not opposed to the idea of celebrating love but the way it's been commercialized and reduced to a joke saddens me.Gone are the days when love used to be about writing a heartfelt letter.Now it's strictly business.Now it's a cut-throat competition among peers to show your 'love' in the most expensive,innovative,standout way.What the heck?I'd rather call it showing off.
                                                                                                                     Back in my early teenage,I used to be pretty excited about V day.I spent most of my school life dating someone or the other(Yes,I dated throughout the school and remained single in these three years in college). When I was thirteen,V day meant going to a telephone booth and calling him.When I was fifteen,V day meant making a card for him and sending it through messengers.When I was eighteen,V day meant saving money for buying his favorite deo or after shave lotion.But mostly,it was about doing something but never getting anything in return.I wasn't even lucky enough to see them make an effort.My second boyfriend got me a bouquet with dried out flowers because he got to know from my friends that I was going to get him his favorite deo and a card double the size of his chest.
                                               I used to be really hurt back then.All my friends used to get cards,flowers(like,real flowers),chocolates,personalized coffee mugs from their boyfriends and I was the only one,neglected and taken for granted.But when I finally started growing up,I realized what a favor they had done me.They showed me the reality in stead of allowing me to get lost into a make-believe world.Because as soon as the mascara wears off,no one gives a rat's ass about your eyes,lips and heart.Over the years,I not only forgave them,I kind of grew fond of them,in my own sick way.
                                                                                                    Please don't think this is the space a hopelessly single twenty two year old uses to pour all her frustrations out.I DO love love,just not the way we've got used to celebrating it.I DO believe in making the loved one feel special,just not the way the ad gurus advise us to.I couldn't hate the Hindutwavadis bullying couples celebrating V day more! But at the same time,if I ever find true love,I won't like to spend our days looking at red cushions that say,'I love you more than anything in the world.'


I've been wearing a lot of red lately.It was tough to find pictures with no red popping out.You've seen the dhoti pant before.I'm gonna wear it a lot more,so,you better get used to it.The clutch was a gift from my uncle.I always loved the shade of green but since I carry the whole world in my bag,I hardly got a chance to flaunt it somewhere.The kolhapuris are an old favorite too.I wore the bindi to make the whole look more feminine.
On a parting note,
I'll be gone,
long before I cease to matter,
still early enough to make the world ponder over the choices I made.

19 comments:

  1. I do love love but I've grown out of v-day too. I'd much rather celebrate my anniversary cos that's our day! So no plans tomorrow..just work :)
    I do love the Kolhapuris..

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  2. thanks for your comments, but actually i have a traslate gadget in my page. try it!

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    1. Okay,I must've missed it by chance.Thank you.

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  3. Soumi,first of all, even at the cost of sounding cliche, I want to wish you a very very Happy Valentine's Day !
    your thoughts do echo my thoughts on this subject but real love will never go out of fashion even if Vday becomes irrelevant !
    and you are looking lovely !

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    1. Thank you,Sanghamitra! You wishing me isn't cliche at all,trust me! I just don't like this overdose of red and pink,that's it.You're right.True love will never be outdated but seems like we're so busy chasing the false one that we end up missing the true calls.

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  4. Even i LOVE love, but celebrating love for just ONE day? Seems lame to me! :) But what the hell? I am going to enjoy my single status and go shopping and eating pizza and doing everything that i love to do! :)
    I love your Dhoti Pants. I have mentioned this before too!:) I like that clutch too! <3

    Xoxo.
    Surabhi.

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    1. Single five,girl! That's exactly what I needed to wrap up the session with. Do share what you shopped on your blog. Pizza? Eeeeeshhhh...*Going green with envy*
      Damn you and your flat tummy(and toned arms and shapely legs and what not...)!:P

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  5. I dont like to follow this so called days, v-day for instance. why cant we think of making someone feel special throughout the year instead of just one day? just too sick! But Yeah I love love. love your kolhapuris.

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    1. You couldn't be more right! Thanks for the compliments! My kolhapuri is blushing.:P

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  6. Love those bohemian pants! =)

    http://pinkchampagnefashion.blogspot.com/

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  7. i spent my day in an arcade. yeah, it ws expensive but what d heck , i spent it on myself.

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    1. Cheers to that! Proud of you,bro!

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  8. We did a roleplay in college about this issue...We named it "Boost your sales day" for companies like Archies,Ferraro Rocher....i mean why on earth people give each other inane gifts...like pinkalacious nonsense..and stuffed crap...
    Im not single....but even i dont celebrate Valentines Day...and im so proud of it

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  9. Ah, wow. I admire your style! xx

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  10. love this pants and also your blog! It's so nice!!! I follow you!
    Pass to my blog and if it likes you follow me too, I will be so glad :D
    kisses
    http://francescagiusti.blogspot.com/

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    1. I DO follow your blog,Francesca and I LOVE it,to say the least! Thank you so much for the compliments!

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  11. What a great post, i love every word of it.
    I'll be following you, and be inspired.

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